The Keeper of the Home

Just yesterday, the same question that I’ve been asking myself and God a couple of times now popped up again while I do some house chores – “God, am I really meant to become a stay-at-home-mom?” I am not complaining, I love being one and I am very lucky to have been given this choice. It’s just that I thought I would be more useful and productive if I work outside.

But in my process of seeking the Lord just this morning as I want to start my day right, I stumbled upon this site called Wholesome Words and got the answer to my question. If you are a stay-at-home-mom, but still wants to work I hope you’ll be enlightened by this too.

I am the keeper of this home.

The position and responsibility of the wife and mother - The keeper of the home (Titus 2:4,5)

The phrase “keepers at home” means a stayer at home, a domestic. She is to be happy at home, making it the nest it ought to be (Prov. 31:10-31). There is no room for a career outside the home. If she is a mother, she has a full-time job at home. Only in cases of dire need should the mother go to work. If there are no children or the children have grown up and left the home, her free time can be used in Christian work proper for women. The desire to have the things of this world is the real reason many wives go to work. Some use the pious excuse that, “if I didn’t work, we wouldn’t be able to tithe.” Better is it that the family should forego tithing rather than send the wife to work. Due to the gravity of this subject I have taken the space to list the many undesirable consequences of wives going out to work:

a. Since she is bringing home part of the income she will want a voice in how it is spent.

b. Children to a babysitter — no discipline.

c. Contact with other men at work — temptation, flirting, unfaithfulness and divorce. It is no accident that the divorce rate has been climbing since World War II when women went to work for the war effort.

d. The husband will soon be expected to help with the housework – after all, it is unfair for him to expect her to work all day and then do all the housework.

e. Meals will be thrown together — leftovers and TV dinners.

f. Physical well-being will suffer — she cannot work all day and clean house all night; she is the “weaker vessel.”

g. Her spiritual life and that of her children will suffer.

h. The added income will lead to worldliness — the things of this world will become more preeminent in the life.

i. In attempting to make it up to the children you will spoil them — you feel guilty about leaving them so you let them do anything they want and you give them anything their little heart desires. This will not compensate for parental neglect nor will it cause them to love you.

j. Her respect for her husband will lessen — she will resent the fact that he couldn’t provide for them. Should she be moved ahead by her employer, she will wonder why he never gets a promotion. Perhaps she will make more money than he does; she begins to chide him, trouble ahead.

k. Children rebel in reaction to the neglect and lack of love. Again it is no accident that teenage and college age rebellion runs parallel with the increase in working wives over the last thirty years.

Click HERE to read The Christian Home Manual.

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GT: Me, Spiritually

I am weak. I don’t have the solid foundation of faith in me. I am lost. – I need all the help I can get to renew myself in Christ.

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My father is a Baptist, my mother is a Seveth Day Adventist and my grandmother (whom I grew up with) is a Catholic. I was brought up believing that one religion is better than the other. I was able to see the differences in the three religions I mentioned, but I failed to see the only one goal they all try to achieve. Should I blame my family for my inconsistent belief now? Well I guess partly, yes. Until now I am confused and still don’t know whose belief is right.

Among the three, my father’s religion is what I personally want to practice and believe in, but I was not able to do so because I married a Catholic. I was the one who decided to convert myself into Catholicism for one reason – I want my own family to have one faith. I don’t want to confuse my kid/s just like what I’ve been through as a child. I want my family to go together to one church, not like what happened to me – This week I go with my father, the next week I go with my mother and to make my grandmother happy, I go and practice her religion the other week.

I know it’s not about religion, but still I’m lost. I don’t even know how to teach my child about faith. Even the Bible has different versions, I don’t know which is best to read – that’s why I don’t read anymore. Whenever I sing praises to the Lord, I can feel the connection that I have in him, but after that I am lost again. I envy the people who can proudly say that God is their strength and that they are proud to say that they are nothing without God.

I want to renew myself. I want to become a living believer of Christ who has the faith that can move mountains. I want to learn the words of Christ and make them my weapon everyday I live my life. I have nothing to brag about this. I am someone here praying for an angel that will help enlighten me, spiritually.

More spiritual talkings at GT.

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