When SAHMone Speaks – Hubby Helper

QUESTION:

What mother roles do you share with your partner?

ANSWER:

Uhhm… EVERYTHING??? Yes! He does everything. He folds the laundry, washes the dishes, cleans the house (he’s in charge of the bathroom), helps Alyssa tidy up her toys, cooks, and ALL. He’s also a hands-on dad, though he doesn’t bathe Alyssa and he never washes her poop since she turned a year old , but he’s always there for her. Sometimes we can be bossy and ask our daddy to get us ice cream and cook our meals on weekends. When I don’t wash the dishes at night and it’s a weekend the next day and he wakes up ahead of me, I’ll be awaken by the sounds of the plates, spoons and pans – he’s washing them. I have a SUPER Hubby! Wanna ask what I do at home then? Well, blog… blog… blog… FB… FB… FB… LAZY ME!

It’s really a blessing to have a partner who helps carry the loads. I always say, if my hubby is not him, I bet I won’t have this happy life.

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CC: When I Thought It’s Over

My dearest sweetheart never – as in never gave up on me. I have initiated the break up a couple of times before because I am mad or because I am guilty of a certain quarrel, but he never agreed. And, not a single time that he ever asked me to stay away. He has the longest rope ever and I feel so lucky and blessed to know that I am so loved and that I am important because he chose not to live without me. *chizzy*

However, no relationship is perfect, right? So we have our flaws too. I really thought it was over when I felt like he’s not gonna stand up for me when I got pregnant. He never said anything to confirm it, but I know he was hesitant to commit. He was saying he doesn’t want an urgent wedding because he wanted to save up for it, himself and that my baby is going to have his name even though we are not married. He’s ok with civil wedding, but the thing is – I felt like he’s so afraid to get married. So I said I won’t force him, but he better forget everything about me and the baby. He just graduated and had his first job so he thought it was not the right time then, but what about me? I was still studying, and I was the one carrying the baby. Then the ex contacted me when he learned about the pregnancy and though he doesn’t know the problem, he told me that he was willing to stand for me and my baby. When I told him about it, he rushed to our place, talked to my tita and promised to marry me. *scared!!!*

Basically, that’s the only time I felt like it’s over, because for a number of times that I wanted to go out of the relationship, he’s always there to hold me back. No matter how childish I get to think about separation, he never handled it losely that he always makes me feel like I am the most precious puzzle that completes his life.

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CC: Petty Quarrels

It’s been 3 long years since hubby and I have serious quarrels and that makes me so happy, I bet he feels the same way too. We have already built the wall of trust we long been working on. I have done so much for him to lose that trust and I’m so happy that after working so hard to regain it, I finally did. (At least that’s what I think.) Hubby didn’t do anything, but it was my jealousy that was ruling over me then so I believe hubby tried so hard as well to make me feel secure. These days, we no longer have those serious “Let’s end this up” thingy, all we have now are just petty quarrels and a good laugh after.

You know what, when we’re here in London with only the 3 of us, we rarely have a fight. I guess because there’s nothing to fight over about and we find it to be such a time waster when we’ll spend the weekends without talking to each other. The latest petty quarrels we have was when we’re in the Philippines last December. I guess we are just not used to having lots of people around and we just can’t find the time to be what we were used to be – kissing, hugging and even love-making was hard because we don’t have our own room to do that. We were too exhausted that we need to show everyone we’re ok even though we know for ourselves that we’re missing each other already and I exploded when we were already about to go back here and still he hasn’t got the eye glasses he really wanted – it took him the whole vacation before he finally decided. I hate it when I get really mad that I forget how to respect my husband. I had my voice raised on him and not just raise, I actually shouted at him. I was really angry, but knowing my husband, he will never do the same – he never raise his voice on me. So to cool things up, he asked me to decided what to do next to make me feel better. At night, when we had the chance to talk, I hugged him and said sorry. I think he understood that all he said was, “It’s alright, Mum. Forget about it.”

We are a very sweet couple and as much as we would want to be as sweet, we just can’t when there are other people around, and I don’t understand why. Maybe we are just being so mindful of other’s opinions. This we really have to work out.

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