Spanking

Has anyone here knows someone who had a difficult time disciplining his/her child? Who ended up having to send their son or daughter in a drug detox center program? Does it ever occur to you that it all started with how we raised our kids since day one?

For pinoy parents, spanking is quite common. We are quick to raise our hand and plant smack on our kid’s backsides. Most of us were raised that way and we turned out okay so why not discipline our kids the same way?  I personally believe that spanking is ineffective. Children will only remember the negative feelings not the message we are trying to send. Experts also believe that long term consequences of spanking can include anti-social behavior and delinquency.

Now I wonder what other parents think about this widely debated disciplining dilemma.  Do you guys believe in it? If not spanking then what else?

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When SAHMone Speaks – Rating Myself as a Mom

QUESTION:

How would you rate yourself as a mother, 10 being the highest?

ANSWER:

Technically, I guess 5 or even less. Many people think I deserve 10 out of 10, but honestly, I am far from even reaching 6.

I am proud to say that I think I have done fairly well in instilling the values to my child – the value of good health that eating the right kinds of food matters, that she should take whatever it is being served and that she needs to have a small taste at least before saying no; the value of every living thing on earth where respect should be observed no matter who or what she’s dealing with; the value of showing her gratefulness that saying thank you means a million to whoever gives her something; the value of money that it’s not everything, but since it’s important to live comfortably, spending it wisely is the best way to use it.

My daughter is only 5, but she understands well enough. She knows what’s nice and rude, what’s good and bad, what’s acceptable and not. But teaching her these are not the only basis. I envy those mothers who give 100% of their time to their kids, playing with them and giving them the full attention they deserve. Those moms who are so domesticated that they make sure the whole house is clean and presentable before everyone arrives. I am just so addicted to the internet, that I spend most of my time here instead of spending it with her and on doing household chores. I am not setting a good example by showing her how lazy I am. I have so much to work on, really and writing about it helps a lot as it helps me re-evaluate myself so thanks to Mommy Michelle for putting up a meme like this.

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Am I Losing My Friends??? Sorry…

I can’t get over this cake business thingy. Since the past weeks, all I do is research, research, research on how I will go about this. It’s just so difficult here because I have to undergo a lot of paper works – registration, certificates, insurance and all. Plus of course the marketing strategy that I have to work on since there are only few people I know around. Unlike in the Philippines, setting up a business is so easy, but then I won’t go anywhere if I won’t start anything so there. The result of this cake business is the loss of connection with all my friends. All my friends are online and I know I am losing them by not even saying “hi”.

My social life is online – Facebook and blogging. Now that I am focusing on an offline work, I think I will have a hard time gaining them back. I don’t know if it’s acceptable, but I just like to keep quiet these past days. As much as I want to stay connected, I just feel like I can’t accomplish anything if I do. I love chatting with them, but when I start I just can’t stop so I decided to just avoid it. Then some weird things came to my mind that I even think about dying… Will anyone from them be there in my funeral? I don’t think so. I am just not a good friend and if I decided to get away even for quite awhile, I won’t be surprised if they won’t bother seeing me for the last time as well. Oh dear, I guess this is because of my previous reading about Mesothelioma. But then I am hoping to go back – actively conversing with them just like the old times. When? Just not so sure.