GT: Work Resolutions

The question is… Do I have work? Hhhmmm… If blogging and online selling are considered work, then I can say, I do have. Well, honestly, they are not work, if you ask me – maybe because I am still hoping to find a real one soon – where income is stable every month.

But then, since these are the only ones I have now, I better do something to at least be good at them. I’ve actually started this week and I will try to stick with it as much as I can (I think I just failed yesterday because of my housewife duties. GT is scheduled on Wednesdays at 12PM 0-GMT). I already organized my calendar for all the memes I am joining every week. For me, memes are one of the most important parts in every blogging career. Why? Well, as you may know, connecting with other bloggers helps not only our personal social life as we give our views and make friends with the participants, but it also drives traffic to our blogs. For a blogger like me who make paid posts, it’s also a good filler so as not to exhaust my blogs by the advertised posts.

For my online selling business, I will try to be more organized as well. I have already shipped all my previous orders, but until this day, I haven’t asked for their payments yet. My spreadsheet is a mess and when hubby sees it, I’ll be in serious trouble.

It’s actually all about organizing… and it’s not easy as pie, I tell yah!

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Tags: girls talk

The Keeper of the Home

Just yesterday, the same question that I’ve been asking myself and God a couple of times now popped up again while I do some house chores – “God, am I really meant to become a stay-at-home-mom?” I am not complaining, I love being one and I am very lucky to have been given this choice. It’s just that I thought I would be more useful and productive if I work outside.

But in my process of seeking the Lord just this morning as I want to start my day right, I stumbled upon this site called Wholesome Words and got the answer to my question. If you are a stay-at-home-mom, but still wants to work I hope you’ll be enlightened by this too.

I am the keeper of this home.

The position and responsibility of the wife and mother - The keeper of the home (Titus 2:4,5)

The phrase “keepers at home” means a stayer at home, a domestic. She is to be happy at home, making it the nest it ought to be (Prov. 31:10-31). There is no room for a career outside the home. If she is a mother, she has a full-time job at home. Only in cases of dire need should the mother go to work. If there are no children or the children have grown up and left the home, her free time can be used in Christian work proper for women. The desire to have the things of this world is the real reason many wives go to work. Some use the pious excuse that, “if I didn’t work, we wouldn’t be able to tithe.” Better is it that the family should forego tithing rather than send the wife to work. Due to the gravity of this subject I have taken the space to list the many undesirable consequences of wives going out to work:

a. Since she is bringing home part of the income she will want a voice in how it is spent.

b. Children to a babysitter — no discipline.

c. Contact with other men at work — temptation, flirting, unfaithfulness and divorce. It is no accident that the divorce rate has been climbing since World War II when women went to work for the war effort.

d. The husband will soon be expected to help with the housework – after all, it is unfair for him to expect her to work all day and then do all the housework.

e. Meals will be thrown together — leftovers and TV dinners.

f. Physical well-being will suffer — she cannot work all day and clean house all night; she is the “weaker vessel.”

g. Her spiritual life and that of her children will suffer.

h. The added income will lead to worldliness — the things of this world will become more preeminent in the life.

i. In attempting to make it up to the children you will spoil them — you feel guilty about leaving them so you let them do anything they want and you give them anything their little heart desires. This will not compensate for parental neglect nor will it cause them to love you.

j. Her respect for her husband will lessen — she will resent the fact that he couldn’t provide for them. Should she be moved ahead by her employer, she will wonder why he never gets a promotion. Perhaps she will make more money than he does; she begins to chide him, trouble ahead.

k. Children rebel in reaction to the neglect and lack of love. Again it is no accident that teenage and college age rebellion runs parallel with the increase in working wives over the last thirty years.

Click HERE to read The Christian Home Manual.

Tags: being a working mom

Shall I Pursue Higher Education?

This morning, I had a quick chat with one of my mentors in college, Ma’am Eunice Areola. She was our department’s chair, but when I entered the organization, she stepped up to a higher position so we were not able to actually work together. However, this didn’t hinder me from getting close to her, instead I looked up to her more and made her one of my inspirations. We got her as one of our godmothers in our wedding which I believe binds us more personally.

We were just having a casual chat until she ended with another words of wisdom, “Continue with your dream, even if it’s already late.” (These are not the exact words, but this is how I understood it.) I remembered her advice to me before when she learned that I will be joining hubby here in London right after graduation. She said, it would be good if I get my MBA degree here and enter the world of education because there are greater opportunities for me in that field.

Now, a new thought came in – shall I pursue higher education? I know I already proclaimed myself as a “No Career Woman”, but upon looking to Ma’am Eunice, I realized that where she is now and what she has become didn’t make her less of a mom to her 3 kids. I’m just not sure if I can be as flexible as her, but one thing’s for sure – it’s not impossible.

This thought made me browse for some good universities, like the University of Redlands, Inland Empire college, California business school or other business schools just around London.

I don’t know what’s in store for me in the future, but one ultimate dream I want to achieve is to have a successful restaurant that I can grow. I don’t know how, but hopefully in time, I can have the sign that it’s achievable.

Tags: being a career woman, being a working mom, continue education, dream